Define a Strong, Independent Woman for Yourself and Then Live It

I found this article online, it us very inspiring. Check it out, you might like it. For me, strong means. . . a woman can carry weight. She can persevere when things get tough. She can dig deep into her faith reservoirs and know all things will work together for her good. She prays for more strength, and she seeks help in times of need. A strong woman has a strong sense of who she is; therefore, she’s not swayed by public opinion. Strong means she protects her joy and peace, she covers her family and friends, and she stands up for what is right, even if she has to stand all by herself. A strong woman who doesn’t pretend to be strong but actually is strong lives a life of balance. She’s capable of doing a lot but not foolish enough to do more than she’s able.

Strong does not mean. . . a woman never cries or has bad days. In fact, bad days only make her stronger because she drops her pride long enough to learn what life is trying to teach her. Strong does not mean she has to say yes to everyone just because they ask. On the contrary, a strong woman uses the word “no” to keep her priorities straight and her health in check. She says, “No, I can’t take on that extra responsibility. No, I will not allow you to speak to me that way. No, you cannot invade my privacy or disrupt my peace. NO.” Strong does not mean a woman walks around with a chip on her shoulder or bitterness on her tongue. She can and does show tenderness and vulnerability.

Johnson, M. (2013). Define a strong, independent woman for yourself and then live it. Retrieved from Johnson, M. (2013). Define a strong, independent woman for yourself and then live it. Retrieved from

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5 Best Things to Say in an Interview

The best things you can say in an interview won’t necessarily get you the job on their own, but they can certainly pave the way. Keep these five things in mind as you go through the interviewing process to give yourself the best chance at landing the job.

Ask Good Questions

According to Howard Pines, founder and CEO of BeamPines, “the best thing a candidate can do at an interview is ask good questions.”

Doing so shows that you are thoughtful and interested in understanding the company. There’s usually a chance to ask questions at the end of your interview, so be ready with questions that show you’re engaged in the process.

Pines suggests several questions, including:

  • What are the biggest short- and long-term issues I would need to focus on in this position?
  • What would I need to focus on differently than the previous person in this position?
  • What organizational issues should I be aware of?

“I’m flexible.”

Whether it’s about possible job duties, a potential start date or simply timing for the second interview, stressing your flexibility makes you easy to get along with.

Hiring managers don’t like complications, and having to coordinate complicated schedules or haggle over a job description eventually just makes you look difficult. While you certainly don’t want to be a pushover — and “flexible” shouldn’t define your salary negotiation — show your potential employer that you’re interested in results that work for everyone.

The Company’s Own Words

Before your interview, become familiar with the company’s website and literature. Pay attention to the words used — what’s important to the organization?

“In your interview, hit key words that appeared on the company website or brochure,” says Olivia Ford of Adeptio. “These key words might include team, leadership, simplistic, culture or growth.”

Mixing these keywords into your answers can provide a subtle hint that you are plugged in to what the organization is looking for.

“That’s a Good Question.”
Use this phrase instead of blurting out “I don’t know” if the interviewer stumps you with a surprise question. It can give you a few moments to come up with an answer and, in the meantime, strokes the interviewer’s ego a little bit too.

Avoid the “I don’t know” answer when possible, but of course don’t lie about your experience or training.

Reasons You Want the Job.

Knowing a job prospect’s motivations is important for managers who are hiring.

During your interview, talk about how this position fits into your future plans and the ideas you have about your career, how it fits with your values, and what you would like to learn from it. Talk about how you see yourself in relation to the company and what you believe you can bring to the position.

These kinds of thoughts show who you are as a person, and go a long way toward giving the hiring manager an idea about how you might fit in the company’s culture and values.

Conlan, Catherine. “5 Best Things to Say in an Interview.” . N.p.. Web. 22 Nov 2013. <http://career-advice.monster.com/job-interview/interview-questions/best-things-say-in interview/article.aspx?wt.srch=1&wt.mc_n=olm_skr_srch_tbl_RON38_img20>.

 

This Is Very Inspiring

When you have God and you have a relationship with Him, you have everything. I am a living, breathing testimony of that. Okay, this is really crazy. God loves me so much to the point He doesn’t want to see worry about anything, being hurt or in pain. Last night I had a hard time sleeping because I started thinking about everything; such as things I am working on, things I want to accomplish. I was a little frustrated about certain things all the certain I had that complete peace and I was okay.

This morning I woke up and started doing some personal study. Lord and behold I received a text from a friend which was exactly what I needed. Below is what I received, I hope you get inspired. On the top of that beautiful message, God bless me with a song “Sitting at the Feet of Jesus” I open the hymnal on that exact page. God is real, alive in every part of my being. I will post the link to that song below.

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plains I have for you, declares the Lord. Dear Women of God, Be still for a while and praise God for His favor, His grace and His and His awesomeness. God is able to do the impossible and is always near. He loves us unconditionally. Together, let’s get 1000 ladies to praise Him with one voice in this next hour. Please forward this to every woman you want God to bless. Let’s all say this prayer during this hour. Dear God, This is my friend whom I love and this is my prayer for her. Help her live her life to the fullest. Please promote her and cause her to excel above her expectations. Help her to shine in the darkest place where it is hard to love. Protect her at all times, lift her up when she needs you the most, and let her know when she walks with you, she will always be safe.

I sent  that text to several people this morning. I received so many phone calls and response to how this message blesses them and uplifted them in some ways. I hope it does the same thing for you.

If anyone searches to have a relationship with God wholeheartedly they will find Him. When you do find Him nothing in life matters (outside of Him) because all you want to do is live for. Once you live for Him everything will fall in place. He will always have your back. I don’t know about you, but my whole desire and longing is to be with Him forever.

This is the link to the song “Sitting At The Feet Of Jesus” (Live) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BT-3TSLRJ0

What Does It Mean To Be In Love?

It is to truly see someone, inside. Their beautiful soul. It is a rare and precious knowledge, and for you to be given the gift of this sight means you contain the right ingredients in your own soul. Often we feel such powerful emotions for another that we believe we are in love, but in reality we are viewing the person through a tainted lens – one that is obscured by the traumas of the past, and therefore we are unable to see things properly. We will grab toward the idea of loving that person, struggling to solidify our happiness together, but eventually look down to find our palms empty, again and again. To find our mates, first we must be ready, ourselves. And the growth we require can only be got with experiences that give us personal insight. The hard lessons we learn when we confront our truths. By putting ourselves out there and trying to love others, we learn of misperceptions and collect the missing pieces of ourselves: what we want, who we are, and who we are not. Through this honesty and acceptance of our truth, we grow better at seeing what rewards us in others. And in our attempts to find our match, we grow into our more authentic self.

 

To love another you must take in all of them: the depth and contrast that defines them. Their fabric, but more importantly, who they chose to become based on their experiences. Love comes from accurate sight, and a person’s true beauty comes from all of them: the darkness and the light. If you only focus on the light exterior, you are missing half of the truth. When you recognize great value inside the heart of another, it’s like hearing a singular mating call aimed just at you. You are recognizing the finite elements that you know to be of value to your own heart. This is a powerful knowledge to have for many reasons, the best being its ability to inspire more growth inside you. Being in love unlocks energy and a thirst for better because you want to give of yourself. It is the greatest gift you have to give. You become driven to show this person how you feel in any way possible: with affection, support, attention, being of service and giving your time. It is both selfless and rewarding in that you are fulfilled by acts of kindness that bring them happiness. Which in turn, makes you feel like a wonderful person.

 

Love enlightens your understanding of the world around you. You gain a special awareness and vision of what would normally go unnoticed: the beauty in others, in nature, and the immense value of what it means to be alive. Your emotional understanding of humanity grows much greater because you see things as more than just yourself, alone. You see things as you plus this new wondrous insight, this other, this one you love. This heightened awareness also provides, much like a magical elixir, strength and energy beyond what you could access alone. You gain a new set of heightened senses: you smell, hear, taste more beauty. It gives you relief from pain. It unlocks chambers of your compassion and benevolence. It gives you a greater connection to humanity at large.

 

When you are not in love, it will feel never fully yours. It can feel heavy and daunting. Or desperate and scary, almost like it is about to be stolen. Or just out of reach – you want and want but are never fulfilled. What this means is something is getting in the way of your readiness and ability to love. You need to do some work on yourself and get to the root of it because you are most likely seeing the wrong elements and misinterpreting the person and situation. It is well worth it, as it can be changed so that you can be in the wonderful state that is love, and you will both be much happier. Once that inner obstruction has been uprooted, you will be given the ability to love someone back – the way it should be given: from a whole place, where you can give of all of yourself.

 

Love needs to be healthy, and if it is not, it’s not love. It’s selfishness and fear collaborating to cause you to cling, despite what is painful, hurtful and numb. Sometimes we choose mates based on this pain and together we can better heal. A couple that is ready for personal growth will grow into a truly loving place, together. They use the stability and vision of the other to grow toward a place that is stronger than they could have alone, untangling the shallow roots that grew around the rocks and rubble of a shaky foundation. When that happens, they will be better to one another because they will be stronger in themselves: so big in heart and free in soul that they will shoot higher and higher, side by side – but still strong, apart. When you reach that place of wholeness, the stress and fear goes away because you are not using this other person to fill something incomplete. Truly loving another means wanting their happiness regardless of how that might affect you. And it means being happy in yourself, outside of them.

 

Love is the most powerful knowledge to gain in the entirety of life. It can give you the key to a wonderful existence that you could never access without it. Pursue it bravely and honestly. Take good care of yourself and covet your heart’s value. Know that you will be okay if something causes you pain. Have hope and optimism and let the rest go. And as soon as you are ready, you will find who you’ve been looking for. To truly love another person, you must first love yourself so that you can give of yourself with unfettered access. Without this personal knowledge you won’t be able to truly see others – most importantly, the one you love.

Bates, S. (2013, 09 08). What does it mean to be in love?. Retrieved from http://hellogiggles.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-in-love

So You Will Do Anything To Get Him!

So you will do anything in your power to get a guy or to get him to like you. Of cross that includes changing you to be him so that he can see you two are comparable (pretty much living his life); such as doing things you know he will like, going places you know he will want to go another to impress him. Wow, this is serious. You will do whatever to get that guy, as if he is the center of your life, and the very reason for your existence. Oh really? Stop there for a second and think. Le’s say you get him at the end, but when you look back to see what you had to do to get him. How would you feel, will he worth that effort? Better yet, where is your self worth, your self value? In that case, I would say you have none. I guarantee you your low self worth will still be there even after you get him because you should love yourself regardless if a guy loves you or not. I am sorry, but no guy on earth deserves that much of my effort. Please gentlemen do not take this the wrong way, but any girl with these types of behavior you should be afraid of and stay away from.

Honestly, as a girl even if guy were to do that for me I wouldn’t want to be with him because that is an indication that he doesn’t loves himself, and he has no self worth. Don’t get me wrong, any girl would want a guy to make an effort for her because that would prove that you love her and want to be with her, but going to the extreme to change yourself, who you are, and the person God intended for you to be just to get me is a little creepy. The only way I would put some effort for a guy only if the feeling is mutual. The guy wants to be with me as much as I want to be with him then this is a different story. Even then I am not going to the extreme because if that guy really wants to be with me then he will make it happen.

The truth is to do anything to get a guy is not healthy and I personally think it’s dangerous. I believe only God deserves that kind of effort. Our desires should be to be like Him by wanting to live a new life that pleasing to Him, and by beholding Him we become change. To do anything to get a guy is life threatening;  to you, to the guy, and even a third party that may be involved (not a perfect example, but Jodi Arias case can easily be apply here) because if you don’t get that guy who knows what you might do; you might end up kill yourself or kill the guy. If the guy were to be with someone else, you might easily try to hurt or kill the other person so you can have him to yourself. Wow, is being with a guy worth sacrificing your life, his life and someone else life and well being? I will let you answer that question for yourself.

Anyone with these behaviors I would encourage to see a counselor because they are not normal (hint, for some girls the guy is not really what they are after). Some people get offended when you say to see a counselor. Seeing a counselor is not a bad thing. Actually, someone would have to be awfully smart to know when she needs one, and seeks one.

Remember to be yourself, when you are yourself the guy likes you better and respects you. Don’t try to be someone else or copy his sisters and doing what they do because I doubted he will like that or his sisters. That would only cause problem. Please leave me a comment.

Happy Blogging,

Marie L. Marcellus