Fashion language, the clients will forget what you said, what you did; they will never forget how you made them feel. Working in a fashion boutique, some people will do anything to make the sale especially when they have quota that need to be met which includes selling clients outfits that don’t make sense, and telling them they look amazing. They believe it because they trust their judgment; after all, they are the expert here. That will certainly help in meeting the sale goal for the day, but how would that affect them in the long run is a different story.
The most important thing to remember about fashion is that some clients don’t know better when it come to what is look good to wear and what is not. The clients go shopping, they counting on our expertise to help them making the right decision and looking their best. Some of the times, whatever we tell them, they will be believe; after all we are the expert. The point is no one should sell the clients something they wouldn’t wear themselves because when the clients step out looking bad; the words will get around to where they shop and who help them. In turn, that will reflect back on us. Sometimes money is not always the answer. Take for example planting a plant, take the time to take good care of it by watering it, and pruning it, eventually it will bear fruit in due time in abundant, and sometime the better you take care of it, the more ongoing fruit you will get. Well, it is no different for the clients, the more we take care of them, the honest we are with them instead of using them to make money for here and now, the better relationship you built, the more ongoing business you will get from them because they will always come back. Great honest relationship will result in loyalty.
The point is selling clients things in other to meet goals is a wrong approach to built long term relationship because eventually the clients will realize they mean nothing to us, and we are using them to meet your needs. As a result, they will eventual leave and look for true fashion experts that can help them to look good and appreciate their business at the same time. Being honest and value our customers is a win-win situation. We have everything to gain and nothing to lose. The manipulative way is lose-lose situation to both parties while the sellers may feel they are winning, but in reality they will lose long term potential customers.
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“Today, I’m sitting in my hospital bed waiting to have both my breasts removed. But in a strange way I feel like the lucky one. Up until now I have had no health problems. I’m a 69-year-old woman in the last room at the end of the hall before the pediatric division of the hospital begins. Over the past few hours I have watched dozens of cancer patients being wheeled by in wheelchairs and rolling beds. None of these patients could be a day older than 17.”
That’s an entry from my grandmother’s journal, dated 9/16/1977. I photocopied it and pinned it to my bulletin board about a decade ago. It’s still there today, and it continues to remind me that there is always, always, always something to be thankful for. And that no matter how good or bad I have it, I must wake up each day thankful for my life, because someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
Truth be told, happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it weren’t wrapped so tightly around your struggles. Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.
Here are a few reminders to help motivate you when you need it most:
1. Pain is part of growing.
Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us to. When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. Good things take time. Stay patient and stay positive. Everything is going to come together; maybe not immediately, but eventually.
Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you. When you roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds help you grow.
2. Everything in life is temporary.
Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. After darkness there is always light – you are reminded of this every morning, but still you often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever.
So if things are good right now, enjoy it. It won’t last forever. If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either. Just because life isn’t easy at the moment, doesn’t mean you can’t laugh. Just because something is bothering you, doesn’t mean you can’t smile. Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending. You get a second chance, every second. You just have to take it and make the best of it. (Read The Last Lecture.)
3. Worrying and complaining changes nothing.
Those who complain the most, accomplish the least. It’s always better to attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. It’s not over if you’ve lost; it’s over when you do nothing but complain about it. If you believe in something, keep trying. Don’t let the shadows of the past darken the doorstep of your future. Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any brighter. Take action instead. Let what you’ve learned improve how you live. Make a change and never look back.
And regardless of what happens in the long run, remember that true happiness begins to arrive only when you stop complaining about your problems and you start being grateful for all the problems you don’t have.
4. Your scars are symbols of your strength.
Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars life has left you with. A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward. A scar is the tattoo of a triumph to be proud of. Don’t allow your scars to hold you hostage. Don’t allow them to make you live your life in fear. You can’t make the scars in your life disappear, but you can change the way you see them. You can start seeing your scars as a sign of strength and not pain.
Rumi once said, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most powerful characters in this great world are seared with scars. See your scars as a sign of “YES! I MADE IT! I survived and I have my scars to prove it! And now I have a chance to grow even stronger.”
5. Every little struggle is a step forward.
In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion. It could mean not eating what, or sleeping where, you’re used to, for weeks on end. It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it.
And if you want it, you’ll do it, despite failure and rejection and the odds. And every step will feel better than anything else you can imagine. You will realize that the struggle is not found on the path, it is the path. And it’s worth it. So if you’re going to try, go all the way. There’s no better feeling in the world… there’s no better feeling than knowing what it means to be ALIVE. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Goals and Success” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
6. Other people’s negativity is not your problem.
Be positive when negativity surrounds you. Smile when others try to bring you down. It’s an easy way to maintain your enthusiasm and focus. When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are. You can’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you. They do things because of them.
Above all, don’t ever change just to impress someone who says you’re not good enough. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a brighter future. People are going to talk regardless of what you do or how well you do it. So worry about yourself before you worry about what others think. If you believe strongly in something, don’t be afraid to fight for it. Great strength comes from overcoming what others think is impossible.
All jokes aside, your life only comes around once. This is IT. So do what makes you happy and be with whoever makes you smile, often.
7. What’s meant to be will eventually, BE.
True strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead. There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you have to be willing to open your heart and mind to see them. You can’t force things to happen. You can only drive yourself crazy trying. At some point you have to let go and let what’s meant to be, BE.
In the end, loving your life is about trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience. It’s a long-term journey. You have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting every step of the way. Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds. You might not end up exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive precisely where you need to be. (Read A New Earth.)
8. The best thing you can do is to keep going.
Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.
Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher. Find the strength to laugh every day. Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful. Find it in your heart to make others smile too. Don’t stress over things you can’t change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. And even if you fall short, keep going. Keep growing.
Awake every morning and do your best to follow this daily TO-DO list:
The floor is yours…
What helps you stay motivated when you’re struggling? What’s something positive you try to keep in mind when everything seems to be going wrong? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.
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I have read online and base on our today society it is not acceptable for men to show their feelings. It is consider feminine or weakness to show emotions. That mentality causes men to believe they have to always be tough without emotions and suffer in silence. Personal, I believe this is completely wrong, and it’s a shame these men listen to society that would turn them to some sort of non human heartless robotic without feelings.
I appreciate when a man chooses to be human with feelings. I am sure they are many other women who would appreciate that as well. I strongly believe God created us to be human, bear one another’s burdens (“Bear one another’s burden” can be found in Bible. You can Google it) regardless if you are man or woman which is called empathy. I believe we all have empathy in us, some of us choose not to it, and bury it inside. To appear manly, some men choose to put a facade when they are going through hard times. I am sorry, but falling to depression, and loosing your mind is not manly at all, express your feelings, talking to people who care about you or whatever you have to do to get pass what you are going through is manly. Sometimes we have to put our egos aside to taking care of what is important the most, which is our health, and our family because if we lose focus of those things, we lose focus of everything.
Please don’t misinterpret my argument on this topic. I am not suggesting that men should walk around crying 24/7 as a child. This wouldn’t be a good behavior for men or women. My argument is that not only women who have feelings or who get hurt, men get hurt to; therefore, their feelings shouldn’t be neglected as if feeling shouldn’t be existed for them.
I have seen men who suffer from major depression just like women, and mental health is not just for women, but for men. I believe if men where to express their feelings in a healthy manner, less men would have falling into depression. What we have to understand is women feel emotions and effect by them greatly so is men. Therefore, men’s feelings shouldn’t be different because they are human just like women.
I believe we can change our society’s mind frame on how they view certain things, men and their emotions/feelings are one of them. The best thing men can do to change the way society views their feelings;
- When you are hurt, don’t hide it, if express your feelings will cause you to feel better
- Don’t be too concern about what other people are thinking or have to say about how you handle your feelings. Remember, you have your own life to live; you are the only one who knows how you feel and what you are going through.
- Don’t live your life to other people’s expectations. These people who are criticizing you are not your family, and they do not have your best interest at heart. If they did, they wouldn’t requiring you to suppressing your feelings inside without dealing with them in a proper manner
- The more you vent, and express your feelings, the better. You will be able to heal faster and move on with your life in a healthy way.
Share your opinion with me. What do you think, is it okay or not okay for men to express their feelings/emotions? Why or why not?
Marie L. Marcellus
Thinkers are always thinking, sometimes to certain extents which you may think that are irrelevant. Thinking is a great thing. It gives us the ability to be creative, to come up with ideas, making decisions, and resolve problems. Thinkers are able to take time to look back and see where they are, where they have come and where they are going. This is important because it give us the opportunity to do some evaluations and balance things out and make changes if need be. Doing evaluation and making changes is the only way we can actually grow in life no matter where we may find our selves in life.
We all think, but thinkers think in a deeper or shall we say extremity; however, thinking by itself cannot help us unless we take action to make changes. Make changes is not easy because we as human being do not like changes, and one of the reasons for that we feel comfortable and are afraid of the unknown. We all have it in use, and this is normal but in spite of being afraid we should be able to get somewhere without letting our fear consume us. We all facing fears everyday in our lives one way or another; starting a new job, going away to school, and going to a country for the first time. We are afraid of lost; such as losing our wealth, a great job, friends, health, husband, wife, children, prestige, social class or whatever it may be, we all have to face it.
While being afraid is normal; however, sometimes we have to take chances in life as afraid we may be or find ways to deal with our fears because this is the only way changes can take place. Can you imagine if many inventors had let fear take over their lives? They would have never put their thoughts out there and accomplished some of the great inventions.
You have been in that bad relationship for years. You thought about leaving many times, but you are afraid. You find many excuses why you should stay, but you are unhappy about many things. Until you take a stand about that relationship, you will always be in it, and you will always be unhappy. You have been thinking and talking about going back to school for years, but until you decides to take action to actually do it, it will never get done.
Some people use different techniques to get over their fears, but knowing what motivates you can be a great motivator to do things you wouldn’t normally do. For example, when I gain a few pounds I may not feel like working out, but each time I get in the shower I don’t like the way I look with the extra pounds, I may not like the way my clothes looks on due to the extra weight. All these issues are causing me to be uncountable about how I look. Feeling good about me is my motivator which would cause me to work out and lose the weight.
Thinking without action is pointless, and action without thinking is dead end because you will not get far. Fear of taking action is senseless because you would not have purpose in life. Everything in life there is a balance. Imagine this; I love Paris, and I would love to go there. I think and talk about going to Paris all the time, but I am afraid of flying. If I don’t find ways to get over my fear of flying to get to Paris, I can think, talk about Paris, even dream about it, but I will never make it to Paris. It is that way for everything in life. It may not be your fear of flying, but whatever fears that hinder you from getting somewhere, find a way to overcome them.
Marie L. Marcellus
Life demand actions, complete, sincere turn away, and the ability to stick to our decisions even when it is not easy. Life is about tough decisions sometimes!
Marie L. Marcellus
No one born with knowledge; therefore, if you want to be good at something you need to practice. Practice make perfect. The more you practice, the better you get. When learning something new for the first time it can be a little changing and intimating. Therefore, it is important to build up on things you already know. Focus on what you know is a great motivator to learn something new.
A young lady once told me knowledge is power. That stays with me ever sense. It is a great idea to make an effort to learn something new everyday and learn as much as you can. My down fall is that I love smart people, and I love to be challenge. Talking to someone smart, knowledgeable is very encouraging, it helps to stay focus, but talking to someone who are not knowledgeable causes impatient and boredom.
Generally everyone is capable of being smart, but it is a matter of wanting to be knowledgeable because it requires devotion and it can be time consuming. Personally, I don’t believe in stupidity because when you think about it, stupid is the absence of knowing, and lacking knowledge. What I think is stupid is the act of pretending to know when you actually don’t know. Call me stupid if you want to, but if I don’t know something I will ask questions, I will ask to explain it, I will ask you how it works, I will straightly say I don’t know to do it. Please show me how it is done because this is the only way to learn apart from doing research. Pretending to know when you don’t know will not help you to learn.
Just because you ask questions that doesn’t make you less smart. I believe someone would have to be quite smart to ask some great questions, and get involve. Another important point, don’t assume someone is smarter than you just because she seems smart.
Perfect example, I was taking a summer math class which was held three to four times a week. I always tried to get to class on time because I use to be afraid of missing some important key points to solve the problems. I spent a lot of times studying and practicing. I have to admit, summer classes are not easy because you have to be devoted and focus. One of my classmates uses to miss many days of class, coming to class very late, leaving early, and during test she was the first one to finish. Honestly, I felt a little intimated. I was thinking that girl is super smart. The summer session ended, and we all went our separate way. The Semester to follow she saw me at the lady’s room, she remembered me from that summer class. She started talking to me. I had a chance to ask her about her grade for the math class because curiosity got the best of me. I was surprised to found out she didn’t pass the class. I thought she was smart to the point where she didn’t need to be in class or study. Ever sense then I learned not to compare myself with others.
Some people sometimes see me from a distance they automatically think I am smart. They said you are so smart. I laughed. I have no idea where they got that idea from because I never told anyone I was smart. I tried to tell them I just work hard, and I tried to apply myself. The truth is no one born knowing. Believe it or not we all had to learn somewhere along the way; in school, at work, by doing research or just by exposing to different things or people. Learning is an endless process, and no one stop learning until death. The more you push yourself to learn new things, the more you practice, the more you know. This is not magic or rocket science. This is real life.
Marie L. Marcellus